To be mad, or to be romantic?

Miguel has been complaining for a while about his neck and shoulders hurting, and it seems like everyday after work he is in pain. In the past two days it has been the worst, or from my opinion it has because he's been saying more about it. So we get off of work today and I'm in a great mood after all I'm free for the next fifteen hours. Miguel isn't though, he's in pain and to be frank he seems a little on the grumpy side. I know it was wrong of me, but this seriously aggravated me. I wanted to have a nice night and it didn't look like I would get that. So after walking the dogs I decided to go to the store in part because I needed to go and also because I felt a little me time would put things in perspective. Well it did and when I was walking around the store waiting for the pharmacy to fill my order (by the way, I don't understand why it takes a whole 20minutes to take a birth control packet which is pre counted and packaged out and stick a label on it) I stumbled upon the great isle of bath salts and face masks. While perusing through all of the girly stuff I found a bath ball that was supposed to "relax muscles" and instantly an idea popped into my head. "Why get aggravated when I can just try to change his mood?" So I got the bath ball and went along with my shopping. Now sorry to disappoint you, but this blog isn't about the actual romantic night but more about what it meant to me. A bottle of wine, dozens of candles and this little bath ball changed the whole night around for us. And I realized that it worked so well because I wasn't thinking about my feelings and how hurt I was that he wasn't in as chipper of a mood as I was, but instead I was thinking about him and how to make him feel better. While I was at the store I started planning in my mind, and it was running 90 to nothing about all of the things I wanted to do to make it great for him (I had even planned down to the dog bones that would ensure the ever playful puppy's quietness for at least 15minutes). After it had all been worked out, I realized that I too was rewarded with the pleasant, relaxing evening that I had wanted because I thought of him first. So my lesson from all of this: Be thoughtful and considerate of others and often you will get what you need in return. Or better yet, give 100% and expect 0 and both of you should have everything you need (I finally understand how that works and what it means)